Sunday, April 20, 2008

What could Forgiveness do for you??

If we are anything alike, you have a garage or attic or basement full of junk--old clothing that doesn’t fit or that are outdated, boxes of children's toys, papers you'll never need or even look at again. We possess sentimental attachments to things that are just taking up space.Perhaps these things are holding you back, they are not. They are surely weighing you down, if not mentally, perhaps expressively. But unless you have a problem with 'collecting' or being a pack rat, then the stuff in your attic might not be that big a deal.Similar to your attic or garage, your mind stores things for you. You've got your memories and knowledge and emotions, you've got images of the best times in your life and remembrances of the gloomy times.I'm going to show you a way to abandon this junk through the simple act of forgiveness.The point of forgiveness is not to help the other person that you're forgiving (although it probably will). The purpose of forgiveness is not to make you an improved person (although it probably will). And the reason of forgiveness is not to make you right with God (although if you believe that it will, it probably will help).Forgiveness has the potential to take away the obstacles that are holding you back plus stopping you from achieving your dreams. By clearing out the unconscious, you figuratively get rid of a huge chunk of negativity.
This is the law of attraction that has become popular recently but has been around forever. You are what you focus on. It's that easy.When we center on the hard parts, the bitterness and challenges, then all day, every day, we bring hard parts, bitterness and challenges. We're here on earth, I think, to gain knowledge from this school called planet earth that we're cable of manifesting precisely what we want in life.Let's split up our unconscious mind into sections and let's say that we can group together every one of our troubles, our problems, our bitterness, our resentments, all into one part of our unconscious. For sake of argument, let's say we've completed that now.What percentage of your unconscious is being consumed by that psychological trash?If we take all of this anger and bitterness and we give it a value in our unconscious mind... Well like; let's say that there is 5% down inside there someplace, even 1%. How would that concern you? It's like Chinese water torture. It's a trickle, trickle, trickle, pain, pain, pain, anguish, anguish, constant problems dripping, dripping, never stopping. If we could somehow root that out, get rid of it, and as a substitute, focus on our universes, what would our life become?

Sunday, April 13, 2008

Good Food for Good Mood

One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well." - Virginia WoolfVirginia Woolf was on to something: food - and our relationship to it - is our sustenance, our lifeblood. It has the potential to be a source of nourishment and wellbeing or, as is the case for many people, a source of angst and unhappiness.Last month, I wrote about sugar and its impact on our mood, cravings, attention, and energy. I know, based on your notes to me, that many of you resonated with my thoughts, and that many of you struggle with sugar cravings, sugar crashes, and sugar conflicts of your own.This month, I want to extend that conversation to talk in general terms about food and how it affects our biochemistry (mood, cravings, attention, energy, etc. . .). It has become clearer and clearer to me as a therapist and a certified health counselor that everything we eat has a powerful effect on our lives. No, not just our weight (which is what most of us focus on), but on how we feel physically AND emotionally. MORE

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Teens And Eating Disorders

Eating disorders are rampant in our society. The more you understand, the better you can cope yourself or help a friend, family member, or loved one! Please forward to friends and family!

Thanks,

Dr. Alice

Mike Herman
As we were all teenagers at one time, that is if you are twenty years of age or older today, you know that the teenage years are full problems, peer pressure, stress and the desire to fit in. It is not surprising then, with all of the peer pressure and images from the media, as well as the strong desire to fit in, that eating disorders are most common among teenagers. 1. Eating disorders are known to be the result of a poor self image and/or an unhealthy relationship to food. Most people think of eating disorders as something that affects girls and young women who are dieting. The truth is that these disorders have to do with our relationship to food and issues related to body image and self-esteem, and not just our desire to to loss some weight. While most people only think anorexia and bulimia when it comes to eating disorders, there are less well-known eating disorders as well, nocturnal eating, pica and binge eating are also characterized by an unhealthy relationship to food and eating. In fact, all eating disorders have one common denominator: an ongoing and unhealthy relationship with food that becomes a disruption in a person's life. 2. Eating disorders generally affect young women, although they can affect just about anyone, middle aged women and even men. It is estimated that more than 8 million people in the United States are affected with some kind of eating disorder. While those with disorders come from all social and ethnic backgrounds, studies have suggested that young affluent white women are more susceptible to developing an eating disorder. Most disorders first become evident during adolescence and can develop in young children and pre-teens. When it come to men and doctors report eating disorders among men is increasing, it seems to be most common with athletes who want to and/or feel pressure to compete as they are vulnerable to developing a disorder. 3. These disorders can emerge during periods of stress and change. Doctors don't yet fully understand why eating disorders are present in some individuals, and not others. But they do have an understanding about the circumstances that may make some people more vulnerable to developing an eating disorder. Studies have shown that individuals who are experiencing stress, depression, or who have recently experienced some kind of major life change are much more vulnerable to developing the symptoms of an eating disorder. 4. Eating disorders can cause a variety of serious health problems. Many teenagers who become preoccupied with food, body image, and exercise do not understand the health risks posed by their actions. These health problems include heart problems, stomach problems, irregular menstrual periods, kidney problems, dental problems, hormonal disturbance, dehydration and dry skin, to name just a few. Intervention and hospitalization may become necessary in more severe cases. 5. All of these can be treated successfully. Now more than ever there is a better understanding of eating disorders, and many treatment options and resources are available for teenagers and their families whose lives have been touched by an eating disorder. Treatment consists of various therapies, including nutritional therapy, psychotherapy, and family and individual counseling. Sometimes prescription drugs are used to treat underlying problems. For instance, antidepressants may be prescribed.
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Thursday, April 3, 2008

5 "don'ts" in a relationship

There are many things that can get wrong or from bad to worse in a relationship... it is depressing how many couples split-up because of stupid reasons. If you have the slightest feeling that your relationship is in jeopardy or if you inquire what went wrong in ex-relationships, take a look at the list below.

There are 5 "don'ts" in a relationship.

1. Betrayal of the partner

Absolutely unforgivable-you have seen couples that break up because of this, even families. It is hard to forgive and forget, broken pieces stay broken, this is life.

2. Being a private eye

If you check on your partner continuously, visit unannounced... he/she will get tired of the relationship. Everybody wants freedom, a private space, friends... Love means trust and respect, it is not funny on scrutiny all the time, do not act as a detective, act as a lover.

3. Lack of emotional support and attention

In a relationship mutual support and attention are essential. We are humans and we crave for being with our loved one, for better and for worse... when it doesn’t happen we feel lonely and rejected. If you have such a problem, deal with it, do not avoid it. Stay close to one another.

4. Too many fights

Let’s face it, in every relationship there are fights. Believe it or not, specialists say they clarify things, but do not dramatize, or raise your voice or offend.
Things clarify themselves if you have patience.
In a relationship, when it comes to fights silence is golden and too many of them ruin what you both have built with love and care.

5. Boredom and lack of spontaneity

Do not let boredom to step in, be creative and spontaneous. Think of common hobbies, activities that make both of you happy.
If love is in the air, every day would be a celebration of your relationship.
Even a ride in the park on rollers can be fun, or going to a movie, exhibition, disco, party.

Before doing anything that can affect your relationship, meditate a bit. Is it worth doing it and ending up alone?

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