Anger Outbreaks: 1 simple exercise

Have you ever wondered why some people can control those mental outbreaks, whereas some people cannot simply do it. It all depends on the things we can do when dealing with anger itself. By taking anger management exercises, you definitely get help and make your life better to keep your anger under control. You will be able to control your emotions and your feelings with a few simple exercises. What you need to do first?# 1 Keeping a record of all your mental outbreaks that you had.#2 Write them down on why you are mad and why you have this type of feeling during the outbreaks. #3 Keeping records of the things that you say and do and to whom you said to them.By keeping a record of how anger is damaging your life, you will realize why it is vital to prevent this way of emotion that is taking your life away. Once you are able to identify the signs or symptoms that your emotions are controlling you that are kicking in.Control it before it starts.When you feel that you are going to have an anger disorder problem and should immediately try to control it before it even starts surfacing. You will want to know from the inside out what you are feeling so that you can better understand what this anger is taking over your body.This simple tip can help.All you need to do is to breathe. One of the anger management exercises is to breathe well. Not just ordinary breathing but control deep breathing. Controlling how you inhale and exhale will ease off unwanted anger emotions that are damaging you from the inside. Taking long and deep breaths can help you relax and calm down before you go into an anger attack. Think about what you are doing and stop it before it starts.Do it when you like it.When you are having an angry or upset moment, you can exercise which can be a great help to your overall being. Take out your frustration in the gym or simply go for a running spree, which can be a great stress reliever. You will be able to let go those angry feelings without hurting your loved ones. After doing that, your body just feel better because you are using your feelings productively and not having an outburst that is embarrassing and damaging to your life.Another exercise you can do.Taking a good break for the moment is another good anger management exercise you can take which I believe it work for some people out there. You can get away from the situation that is making you crazy. Take the time to gain your thoughts and be free for a moment or two. This will help you clear your mind and get back to what you were doing before the outbreak came on.Do you realize you can do it now?Knowing how to control your anger and leading a happy life is something most people like to do and acquire. There are all types of pressure that you simply do not have to deal it yourself that are making your life hard.You can have a good life and not have to worry about when your next anger outbreak will be. With the right anger management exercises, you will be able to stop the problem before it occurs. With that in mind, Eddy believe that he can help people reduce their anger WITHOUT the use of DRUGS and THERAPY.
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How will YOU get through the holidays?

The holidays can be fun, but they also can be a source of great stress — and no wonder. The holidays are often depicted as a magical time when people reconcile and dreams come true.
How Can You Deal With Continuing Family Problems During The Holidays?
Being realistic is the first step. If you have bad feelings about someone, try and avoid him or her and not make an issue of it but don't pretend that all is well. This will enable you to feel true to yourself and less stressed out.
Do Financial Pressures Stress People Out to the Point of Ruining the Holiday Spirit?
Knowing your spending limit is also a way to relieve holiday stress. People believe that they have to go out and buy gifts because it's the holidays, even if they can't afford to do so. Not only is it stressful to feel that you have to buy everyone an expensive gift, but you'll be stressed for the rest of the year trying to pay off your bills. You can show love and caring by getting something that you know is meaningful and personal for that person that doesn't have to cost a lot.
How Do Time Pressures Affect People Around the Holidays?
People shouldn't have to put their lives on pause or totally rearrange their schedules either because of the holidays. Learn to prioritize the invitations you accept and don't feel that you have to go to every holiday gathering.
How Does a Person Deal With the Holidays When He or She Has Just Experienced A Recent Tragedy, Death or Romantic Break-up?
If you're feeling really out of sorts because of any chronic or current stressors, like a death or recent romantic break-up, you may want to avoid some of the festivities because they are so out of sync with how you're feeling. Try to tell those around you what you really need, since they may not know how to help you, and ask for their understanding if you decline an activity.
How Do You Cope With Kids Who Want Everything For The Holidays and Have No Sense of What Things Cost?
Parents need to tell their children to be realistic. It is OK to say to your child that a certain toy is too expensive. And even Santa Claus has limited funds and has to choose what to give because he has a very long list. You can also tell your children that Mom and Dad and Santa Claus will try to choose the most suitable present for the child. Children have to learn that their wish is not someone's command and to curb their desires for instant gratification.
What Are Some Good Coping Strategies?
Take stock of your expectations and make sure they're realistic. Don't expect more of this time of year than of any other. Take a break from holiday music and television specials if you find that they're turning you into "Scrooge."
Most people dread the holidays because their inner experience is so different from what is being hyped. You should trust your own instincts and don't try to be what you're not. Keep up your normal routine and know that this day will pass too.
If, however, you are unable to shake what you think are "holiday blues" your feelings may not be about the holidays, but about other things in your life. If you need help in sorting out or dealing with this issue, a licensed clinical social worker is a person with the training to help you do so. Call 502-419-1698

Trouble with Teens

It seems that many people in Louisville are struggling with angry teens. Both boys and girls are pitching fits, screaming at parents, and refusing to go to school. Today, there was an excellent article in the Courier-Journal and, in case you didn't see it, I thought I'd share it with you. Hope to see you soon!

"Yes, you have to clean your room. No, you can't go to the party. Yes, you have to ride the school bus. GET UP!
Patricia Lorenz knows how hard it can be raising teens, and she knows it four times over.
"They fray the apron strings by being obnoxious little twerps," said Lorenz, whose brood is now grown, out of the house and doing great. "But that's their job. I don't ever remember wishing I could drop them off somewhere."
In Nebraska, that's exactly what's happening under a safe haven law that has stressed-out parents abandoning children as old as 17 without fear of prosecution. While the intent of such laws is to allow desperate mothers safe options for unwanted newborns, safe haven in Nebraska has gone awfully wrong, or is it terribly right?
Raising teenagers -- still kids in some ways, but old enough and big enough to think of themselves as full-in-control adults -- can be a frustrating experience far different from any other, parents say. And unlike the baby years, where there are new parents' gatherings, and relatives eager to help out, the teen parenting years can feel isolating and scary.
Some experts say the parents of teens who have turned their kids over to the state probably made a tough choice.
"In some ways what they're doing is an incredibly noble thing to do," said Betty Londergan, author of "The Agony and the Agony: Raising a Teenager Without Losing Your Mind."
"You can get so sideways with your kids, and to actually reach out for help is an incredibly valiant thing to do, as opposed to hitting them, or worse," she said.
Londergan, with a 17-year-old daughter from a previous marriage, and her husband, Larry Schall, moved to Atlanta from Swarthmore, Pa., three years ago. That made it difficult for Schall to spend regular quality time with his three kids from his first marriage. His son, then in ninth grade, grew increasing defiant and difficult to control.
After the teen disappeared for nearly two weeks, and faced other problems, the family spent thousands of dollars and months in agony for the teen to live for two months in a therapeutic wilderness program, followed by an alternative boarding school earlier this year. Schall says his child, now 17, is in a far better place.
"I know I am in a very small group of parents that could even consider doing this kind of intervention," Schall said. "And now (the teen's) college savings are gone. I would do the same today as I did a year ago. The experience has been transformative for all of us."
Those parents and others around the country have been closely following the saga in Nebraska. The state, the last in the nation to enact a safe haven law, didn't specify an age limit for child abandonments, making it the broadest measure on record and opening the floodgates for children as old as 17.
Since the law went into effect in July, 30 children have been dropped off at state-licensed hospitals. Many are teens and nearly all are older than 10, with some from as far away as Georgia, Michigan and Iowa.
Several parents or guardians who left children in Nebraska reported out-of-control behavior.
"Those people are saying, 'I've done the best I can and I can't do it anymore,' " said Dr. Jason Stein, a family therapist in Los Angeles. "That is a very telling piece of the story. It goes to the humility of being a parent. It's easy to judge and chastise these people, but they're actually making a very proactive decision, albeit not necessarily the best one."
Londergan and Schall, both 54, along with other parents of adolescents, empathize with the relentless pressure and frustration that come with the territory. The stress, they said, can be an isolating experience unique to the age.
Lorenz, 63, remembers it well. She divorced her husband after three kids and seven years of a troubled marriage. She remarried and had a fourth child, only to divorce again. Never earning more than $28,000 a year, she struggled alone, living in Wisconsin, far from relatives.
Now enjoying life on the flip side in Largo, Fla., Lorenz said she had kids in college every year for 17 years while making it as a writer, supporting her family working on radio commercials and renting out bedrooms to airline pilots passing through.
"It wasn't easy and it hurt twice as much when one of the kids rolled their eyes at me in disgust," she said.
While sympathy runs high for a parent dealing with a colicky infant, a towering teen screaming at a parent in a public place is more apt to bring annoying glares than soothing condolences from onlookers.
"Parents are almost always blamed," said Dr. Norman Hoffman, a family therapist in Ormond Beach, Fla., and author of the book "Bad Children Can Happen to Good Parents."
"It's like, 'What did I do wrong?' But there's hope in every city and every state. It's just a matter of understanding the ways in which to work with the system. You have to fight, you have to scream and shout for services."
"It's a tightrope that we walk for 18 years," Lorenz said. "Click your heels and say hallelujah because your struggles are going to make your children more capable and more interesting."

Stress and Your Memory

Feeling stressed out? Having trouble remembering things like names, dates, appointments, assignments, etc.? You've probably heard me say that stress can cause everything from a hang nail to cancer and I do believe that's true. And one of the main symptoms of stress is memory problems. I talk to people every day who think they must be in the early stages of Alzheimer's because they forget names, faces, places, their keys, their sunglasses, etc. There are some fun and easy memory games that you can play either alone or with a friend or spouse. For example, think of 20 words that begin with K within 30 seconds or think of 10 words and find their opposites within 60 seconds. You can help sharpen your brain by making up other games too! It may now sound that amazing but testing has shown over the past several decades that this sort of thing can not only sharpen your memory, but also destresses you by taking your mind off your problems for a few minutes. Give it a try!

Negative Politial Ads and Your Mental Health

How are you doing with all of the negative political ads that have hijacked the airwaves lately? Personally, I am so sick of them that I mute the TV no matter who comes on saying what. It is so sad that our country deteriorates in this way every time an election comes around. I think that for people who are already struggling with depression, anxiety, addictions of all kinds and stress of all kinds, it is just too much to deal with!!
Negativity of any kind is a tremendous stressor and is both a symptom and a result of depression and being "stressed-out to the max!"
I find the ads to be unbelieveably confusing and I think that's what the ad writers want. They must believe that if they just bombard you enough that when you go to vote you'll remember their candidates name in the best light and vote accordingly. Soon, it will all be over and hopefully the hostility and name-calling will begin to fade into the past! But, there's got to be a better way!!
See you this week!