Through the Eyes of a Child--refreshing!!

1st grade school teacher had twenty-six students in her class. She presented each child in her classroom the 1st half of a well-known proverb and asked them to come up with the remainder of the proverb. It's hard to believe these were actually done by first graders. Their insight may surprise you. While reading, keep in mind that these are first-graders, 6-year-olds, because the last one is a classic!

1.
Don't change horses...
until they stop running.
2.
Strike while the...
bug is close.
3.
It's always darkest before...
Daylight Saving Time.
4.
Never underestimate the power of...
termites.
5.
You can lead a horse to water but...
How?
6.
Don't bite the hand that...
looks dirty.
7.
No news is...
impossible
8.
A miss is as good as a...
Mr.
9.
You can't teach an old dog new...
Math
10.
If you lie down with dogs... you'll stink
in the morning.
11.
Love all, trust...
Me.
12..
The pen is mightier than the...
pigs.
13.
An idle mind is...
the best way to relax.
14.
Where there's smoke there's...
pollution..
15.
Happy the bride who...
gets all the presents.
16.
A penny saved is...
not much.
17.
Two's company, three's...
the Musketeers.
18.
Don't put off till tomorrow what...
you put on to go to bed.
19.
Laugh and the whole world laughs with you, cry and...
You have to blow your nose.
20.
There are none so blind as...
Stevie Wonder.
21.
Children should be seen and not...
spanked or grounded.
22.
If at first you don't succeed...
get new batteries.
23.
You get out of something only what you...
See in the picture on the box
24.
When the blind lead the blind...
get out of the way.
25.
A bird in the hand...
is going to poop on you.
And the WINNER and last one!
26.
Better late than...
Pregnant

Mother's Day Feelings

Today is Mother's Day and many people will joyfully celebrate with their mother's or will lovingly and gratefully remember their mothers. But what about all the people who are angry with their mothers and unhappy and resentful about the way their mothers treated them or didn't treat them? One of the most difficult life lessons is accepting the things we cannot change, changing the things we can and having the wisdom to know the difference.
If you did not get along with your mother and have angry bitter feelings still, what can you do? Some of the things that people learn in therapy is that most parents tend to parent in the same way that they were parented. When people come into my office with painful mother-child relationships, I often ask them what they know about their own mother's childhood. Invariably it was abusive, neglectful and pretty awful too. Now of course, two wrongs don't make a right, right? But when humans have terrible childhoods and parenting, unless they get a lot of help themselves, many of these patterns are likely to be repeated.
Healing painful relationships with parents can be a lifelong task but things CAN get better. Forgiveness is done for the one feeling the pain. It helps you and does not "let the offender off the hook."
If you are having some feelings of pain around this, please let me know and we can talk about it this week! Happy Mother's Day to you!

"Mine that Bird: the ultimate Underdog!"

If you were looking for a real emotional picker-upper last Saturday, I sure hope you saw the Derby!!!  Not only did Calvin Borel come from dead last to win the Derby by multiple lengths, the horse "Mine that Bird" was a 50-1 longshot!  Most people were still bemoaning the fact that "I Want Revenge" was scratched the morning of the race because he was widely predicted to win.  The weather was worse than "iffy" and the track was muddy with water actually standing on it so that the horses and jockeys had to slog through it to get their mounts.

Whereas most of the horses were flown to the Derby (and some came from other countries and continents) "Mine That Bird" was driven to the Derby from New Mexico in a 21-hour drive that got her there just shortly before the Derby!  Calvin Borel said he wan't thrilled with this horse, but he was supposed to have ridden "I Want Revenge" and this was the only horse he could get!  Wow!

To me, the message is...never give up, never say never, and expect the unexpected!!!  You never know what the Universe has in store for you and if you just hang in there and do the next right thing, you can do amazing and wonderful things!  Have a great week!